I cannot stress this enough. When someone asks you to listen, listen to them. When they ask you to listen to their favourite song, or to a song they think is beautiful, listen to them and listen to it. When they show you something that moves them, look at it and try to see how it moved them. They find it special, and are sharing it with you because they find something in you that is special. Don't squander that special gift away. Spend a little time. You'll understand them better.